FoxySage: i have noticed female characters are usually stuck with a goody two-shoe paladin/cleric in rpgs as a romance option.
Anomen in BG, Alistair in DAO and Casavir in NwN2 (although in NwN2 the male character is stuck with the creepy elven druidess that have stalked him since he was a child. :p)
toxicTom: Interesting, I knew only about Anomen. And that guy nearly ruined the game for my wife, not because he's the good guy, but because he's such a "whimp" (quote by my wife). She loathed the dialog and his personal quest. She looked with envy on Viconia and Jaheira - really interesting string characters. She didn't like Aerie - too "dolly bird".
Well in the end after the second or third romance talk she kicked him out of the party. Being really angry at the developers.
But there is hope, I guess. I think with games like Jade Empire and Mass Effect the romance options for female characters have become more interesting, including same sex options.
At least Alistair had a nice dry, sarcastic humour which is a big plus in my book. :D
Don't really know much of Anomen other than what you told since i never completed BG or BG 2 (and i have never played Jade Empire/Mass Effect).