Posted May 13, 2014
Naturally we take a risk anytime we go into a relationship, I wasn't telling the OP to never love because it can, in fact, hurt worse than you can imagine. What I was saying is entering a relationship (or as some of the members here seem to only care about, having sex) is not a decision that is magically divorced from risk / reward analysis. I know some of you are making a joke, but for the rest of you kids out there it seems pretty clear that the OP cares for the girl in question, therefore telling him to simply have casual sex is a recipe for disaster! Sex is important in any romantic relationship, granted, but it's not a real relationship if that's all there is to it. Despite the OP's young age, he does seem to already realize that. I hope the rest of you someday learn that women are not simply more realistic fleshlites.
All I can say is, if you actually deeply care for her and suspect that she does for you, then right now is a time when you should put the brakes on. I really hope that you two can still maintain some form of relationship in the interim, and I can say that it's not impossible that you could pursue romance again in the future, but the bottom line is you seem fully aware that you can't afford to destroy the opportunity that is your education for her. So don't. That means you shouldn't hurt each other over something that is clearly doomed from the outset.
All I can say is, if you actually deeply care for her and suspect that she does for you, then right now is a time when you should put the brakes on. I really hope that you two can still maintain some form of relationship in the interim, and I can say that it's not impossible that you could pursue romance again in the future, but the bottom line is you seem fully aware that you can't afford to destroy the opportunity that is your education for her. So don't. That means you shouldn't hurt each other over something that is clearly doomed from the outset.